THE BOOK ON SELF-ESTEEM THAT SPEAKS TO THE MIND, NOT THE HEART
Common approaches to improving self-esteem often involve a little bit of inspiration and a whole lot of self-love. And while that approach can be transformative for some, it leaves many others feeling a bit shorted, wondering if there’s another way. Rethink Yourself offers a refreshingly grounded approach to building your self-esteem.
Low self-esteem isn’t a product of personal deficiencies, even if it feels that way—it’s a product of unfair and unkind self-talk. To improve your self-esteem, you don’t need to change yourself; you just need to change the way you think about yourself. And empty platitudes or endless affirmations into the mirror won’t quite cut it. Authoritative and insightful, Rethink Yourself uses proven-effective methods from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) and guides you through a series of actionable exercises to help you make lasting change.
THIS BOOK WILL HELP YOU:
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give yourself the credit you deserve without being arrogant
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change your negative self-talk by making it work for you, not against you
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evaluate your personal qualities fairly and accurately
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know and honor your innate worth
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uncover positive qualities you didn’t even realize you had
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take your mistakes in stride
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communicate with confidence
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. . . and so much more!
Building your self-esteem isn’t about feeling inspired to somehow uncover your hidden confidence, and it’s certainly more nuanced than just looking in the mirror and telling yourself you’re awesome. It’s about changing those deeply held beliefs about yourself that keep you from seeing who you already are.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Is there a topic you’re so interested in that you could talk about it for hours? For me, it’s self-esteem.
And I’m intensely passionate about helping
people uncover the good in themselves. I believe
you have so much to offer to the world, whether you
realize it right now or not.
I am the owner of Unbroken Therapy in Chicago, Illinois, where I specialize in individual therapy for self-esteem (and some other stuff too). Every day I help my clients find their innate worth, explore what makes them great, tame their inner critics, and treat themselves with kindness.
I earned my Bachelor’s Degree in Sociology from Bradley University and my Master’s Degree in Social Work from the University of Illinois at Chicago. Early on in my career, I worked in the criminal justice system, which, oddly enough, kickstarted my passion
for self-esteem. I believe everyone is valuable and worthy of love, no matter what they may have done in their past. And I think I have a knack for convincing people of that.
Eventually, I pivoted to specialize in self esteem. But some of the methods I learned while working in the justice system continue to inform my work today because they’re surprisingly relevant to self-esteem (even if you’ve never been convicted of a crime).
As a type A over-achiever, I know just how hard it is for those like me to ever feel like anything they do is enough. That’s why I feel so strongly about self-esteem having nothing to do with your accomplishments (or failures) and everything to do with how fairly you evaluate yourself. My hope is that Rethink Yourself can help you separate your actions (good or bad) from your personhood so you can appreciate who you are instead of who you think you should be.
When I’m not busy thinking about self-esteem you can find me baking or cuddled up with my cat watching Barefoot Contessa or horror movies.
Hi, I'm Zach.
WHO NEEDS THIS BOOK
Anyone with low self-esteem or low self-worth can benefit from reading Rethink Yourself.
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But Rethink Yourself was especially written with a certain kind of person in mind:
Perfectionists
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Over-achievers
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Thinkers (not feelers)
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Type A personalities
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People who think self-compassion is "soft"
If this describes you, Rethink Yourself may be exactly what you need! In this book, you won't find anything about self-love, "The Universe," spirituality, or mirror affirmations.
If we needed to be the best in order to like ourselves, self-esteem would be a luxury only for a minuscule proportion of the most exceptional people in the world. The good news is, that’s not how self-esteem works.
